What's WEIGHT Got To Do With It?! by Allyson Byrd, Transformational Life Coach

Today is the big day.  I go in with my new trainer for a weigh-in.  Now, the funny thing is that I stand on my scale daily; sometimes 3-4 times a day.  After I drink water, after I urinate, after I ... well - uh know -- after every possible thing to determine if it make a difference.

Obsessed? Call it what you want, it's where I am living now.  It cracks me up sometimes because I think back to being nearly 350lbs. and NEVER EVER getting on the scale.  There was never a wonder or care, or at least not one that I would listen to.  Now, the voices seem to SCREAM pay attention to the weight. 

hmmm...

According to Dictionary.com (http://www.dictionary.com) weight is defined as:

1. the amount or quantity of heaviness or mass; amount a thing weighs.

2.Physics. the force that gravitation exerts upon a body, equal to the mass of the body times the local acceleration of gravity: commonly taken, in a region of constant gravitational acceleration, as a measure of mass.

3.a system of units for expressing heaviness or mass: avoirdupois weight.

4.a unit of heaviness or mass: The pound is a common weight in English-speaking countries.

5.a body of determinate mass, as of metal, for using on a balance or scale in weighing objects, substances, etc.

What the (**#%$%^*#?!!! 

So you get any of that?

There's one definition toward the middle that brought a bit of revelation my way. 

a mental or moral burden, as of care, sorrow, or responsibility

AND

importance, moment, consequence, or effective influence

It made me think back to where my weight or if I use this definition, where did my SORROW begin?  Where did my burden, care or even better -- at what important moment in my life did I create a series of choices that generated an invitation for WEIGHT?

My hands are shaking as I type this message.  My eyes are leaking with tears and my heart... POUNDING!!

I spend my life helping people create breakthrough.  I set up systems and create clarity so that they can own their power and fulfill their dreams and yet, here I am feeling like a failure, DROWNING in the SORROW & RESPONSIBLITY of my weight.

Insert pause for snot wiping and tear shedding. 

I'm back.  One of my mentors, Sandra Steen taught me years ago that a true sign of intelligence is not to know everything but to know where to go and get it.  WHEW!!

I believe that often I've stopped myself in life because I didn't have all the answers.  I know that I have.  I’ve felt alone, saddened or even guilty that in all of my infinite wisdom, I did not have the fix!! Can you identify with that?

One of the primary reasons that I even decided to engage in this journey was to bring you into the conversation with me... negative chatter and all.  Today, I chose to write this blog prior to my meeting with Sonya Roemisch, Owner of You-nique Physique Personal Training Studios here in San Antonio, TX.  (http://www.youniquephysique.net).  

Sonya was my very 1st weight trainer and she coached me to a remarkable 165lb. weight release.  Now, 4 years later we are addressing a 50lb. weight gain and she's helping me to be ok with where I am, acknowledge the places where I lost balance and create a realistic plan and system for life-long success.  Will it work?

Only if I choose to say YES!

What I love about sharing with each of you is that you write me with your personal and intimate stories.  You are virtual friends but yet you feel real, like we are enjoying a cup of coffee together.  Thank you.

Thank you for allowing me a safe-space to be open, vulnerable and real.  I am enjoying the healing process INSIDE of community.  It really takes a village to advance in any area of our lives.

Another mentor of mine shares this, “Isolation is the fertile ground of insanity!” Yes, if you choose to be alone in your journey, what profits will it yield you other than deranged thinking, flailing results and judgment that keeps you stuck. 

I want to hear YOUR story... BLOG NOW!!

Allyson

PS - I promise to share how the weigh-in goes.  Let's see if Sonya yells like Jillian on "Biggest Loser"?! AAAAHHH!!

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Jennifer Hudson and Allyson Byrd Share the Same Story? by Transformational Life Coach, Allyson Byrd

OMG!! I can't believe it's been a week since I've last blogged.  Wonderful Rockn' Purpose followers.. will you please forgive me? I'm so excited for this journey, words can't even express the gratitude that I have for all of your stories that you wrote to me over the past few days.  I hear you.  I see you and I understand your pain. 


The passion for transformation is true.  Our desire to be healthy, wealthy and whole is real and often seems distant and unattainable.  


I was recently looking at Jennifer Hudson's ads for her Weight Watcher's campaign and I wonder what it would be like to hear the REAL STORY of why she chose to say yes to that opportunity.  


I'm certain there are monetary and co-branding exchanges that every business person desires but my heart can't help but to remember when she was on American Idol and that wonderful judge Simon said to her... (paraphrased) You don't look the part.  You aren't thin enough to be the part.  America will NOT embrace someone that looks like you. WOW!!! 


Was I the only one that was shocked, stunned and overtaken by such harsh words? I remember being a young girl in 5th grade and weighing 110lbs.  I was scared to do our public weigh ins with the nurse, I was teased by other children because I didn't look like every other thin, young and bouncy girl in my class.  I was different and the difference was not celebrated but taunted.  


The taunting became a haunting inside of me.  While I'm 32 years old today and my drive, energy and passion in this program is real, so is the taunting.  


Each time I am scheduled to meet with Heather King, my nutritionist with Spectrum Health Clubs to go over my food choices - good, bad and indifferent... the fear rises.  Will she yell at me, will she call me Fatty, Fatso, Lard Butt? Will she discuss my differences to the world as though it's something bad and unacceptable.  It's funny because if you knew Heather, you'd know that she would never speak that way to me or to any of her clients but that doesn't stop the fear from Chapter 10 in my life that began on a playground, in recess, in Social Studies or even in the lunch room of my elementary school. 


I don't know where you stand in the this journey but I want you to know the negative chatter has an OFF SWITCH.  You have the power of choice to begin a NEW CHAPTER! 


Acceptance is not about being skinny, sexy, alluring or even a certain size.  Acceptance begins from within.  Whether the conversation is weight, promotion on your job, creating a new business, whatever current desires may be...our initial place of advancement has to begin with a challenging look in the mirror to know and accept the authentic, true and real parts of who we've been marvelously created to be. 


Statistics show us that over 190 million Americans are dealing with the disease of Obesity.  I beg to differ.  The daunting epidemic of EXCESS in our lives exists with each and every one of us.  Excess in our spirits, our souls, excess in debt and even excess in self-doubt and fear.  The issue of OBESITY does not just live in our weight challenges. 


Confessional: I've been on the road for the past 10 days and when I began the journey, I had my protein shakes packed, I stopped for deli meet, fresh veggies and everything I could think of to be healthy.  The longer the days became and the more tired I was mentally and physically, I started to make unhealthy choices.  My excuse, I deserve it.  You've put in a hard day, encouraging others to change their lives and choose differently.  Here's a reward for you.  


HMPH!! 


The question I had to ask myself was, "When will you believe that you deserve a reward that DOES NOT DAMAGE YOU?" Yes, I ask myself the hard questions.  As I move forward in this journey, it's not fair for me to be the teacher and not the student as well.  I had to remove myself from the coach, the speaker, the author, the teacher and sit on the other side of the classroom as the student.  


I've decided that the best way to release agreements with the taunting of my past and fears that I'll never fully understand how to make healthy choices for my life (in every area) is to begin a new reward system; rewards that add value to my life.  


PARTICIPATION: I want to hear from YOU! What are the rewards that you believe would be good for you and I? As "we" embrace this wonderful love fest of a 
challenge, what can we do to celebrate our successes and stay present to the challenges so that we can OVERCOME?  You can post your answers here and now on this blogsite and let's see what exciting suggestions we get from all over the world. 


I am your Sister in Possiblity and your Partner in Holistic Success! 


Allyson